If you ask people what “the key to making any relationship flourish and last” is, one of the most common answers you’ll get is:
And that goes to any relationship like the brethren in Christ (Church), friends, family, wife, husband, etc.
Communication is only part of the answer; however it’s not the key to a flourishing and lasting relationship, and another point to consider when it comes to communicating is in Ephesians 4:29:
“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.”
Communication enduring alone could cause more problems than it solves.
- Some have exceptional communication, but it’s a poisonous one (Proverbs 15:2)
- Others have excellent communication, yet disagreements bring division instead of unity (Proverbs 18:2)
- Some have outstanding communication, however bad reception springs up emotional barriers. (James 1:19-20)
- and etc.
To “communicate” is only to impart or exchange information or opinion.
So, conveying isn’t the main key; however, you must come to the full knowledge and understanding of who you are communicating with and what you are trying to communicate.
God’s purpose for relationships
God’s purpose in a relationship in marriage is presented as follow: “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.“ (Genesis 2:24)
Relationships as brethren in Christ (Church) includes a similar description to the one of marriage: “So we, being many, are one body in Christ, and every one members one of another.” (Romans 12:5)
Concerning marriage it is declared to us:“For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it…” (Ephesians 5:25)
Concerning the brethren in Christ (Church): “And the eye cannot say unto the hand, I have no need of thee: nor again the head to the feet, I have no need of you. Nay, much more those members of the body…” (1 Corinthians 12:21-22)
In other words, no person was ever created by God to be self-sufficient only God is. Ask yourself these few questions:
- Could Abraham be a father of all who is in faith without the relationship between him and Sarah?
- Elisha a prophet of the nation without the relationship between him and Elijah?
- Could Israel come to existence without the relationship that was between Jacob and Rachel?
- Would Esther have been able to deliver Israel from the calamity that almost overtook them without the relationship she had with the King of Persia?
- Would the first church be so abundantly blessed by God unless they had come together and lived as one person in the sight of God?
- And etc.
The key to making any relationship flourish is
to gain insight and God’s purpose. For once you realize how valuable and necessary the relationships are that God allows in your life, your perceptions and caring will eventually conform to God’s love. God’s love overcomes and endures all thing
That they all may be one; as thou, Father, art in me, and I in thee, that they also may be one in us: that the world may believe that thou hast sent me. And the glory which thou gavest me I have given them; that they may be one, even as we are one. –John 17:21-22 KJV
You see, well-beloved of God that any relationship that God allows in your life is to be loved as you love yourself.
Jesus said: “Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.” –Matthew 7:12 KJV
Being convinced how dear your neighbor is to you, it will also allow you to fulfill one of the greatest commandments of the Lord.
“Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.” –Matthew 22:37-40 KJV
Another aspect to consider
“If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen? And this commandment have we from him, That he who loveth God love his brother also.” –1 John 4:20-21 KJV